A Gentle First Step into Therapy

Written By Lannie Lee

Starting therapy can feel like a big step. It’s easy to downplay your experience—telling yourself things aren’t “that bad,” or that your concerns aren’t serious enough to warrant therapy. So even if it’s crossed your mind, you might feel curious, nervous, hopeful, skeptical, or all of it at once.

Many people don’t come to therapy because everything is falling apart—they come because something feels off, heavy, stuck, or unclear.

If you’re here, it probably means you’re paying attention to yourself or your relationship in a thoughtful way. That matters.

If You’re Coming as an Individual

You might be feeling:

  • Stressed, anxious, or overwhelmed

  • Disconnected from yourself

  • Unsure why certain patterns keep repeating

  • Like you’re “doing fine,” but not really feeling okay

Therapy isn’t about fixing what’s broken. It’s about slowing down enough to understand what’s happening beneath the surface—your needs, your emotions, your history, and the ways you’ve learned to cope.

In therapy, you don’t need to have the right words. We start where you are. Together, we get curious about what you’re experiencing and what you might be longing for underneath it.

Over time, many people begin to feel clearer about what they need, more confident expressing themselves, and more grounded in who they are.

If You’re Coming as a Couple

You might be feeling:

  • Stuck in the same arguments

  • Distant, disconnected, or misunderstood

  • Unsure how to talk without things escalating

  • Like you care about each other but don’t know how to reach each other

Couples therapy isn’t about deciding who’s right. It’s about understanding what’s happening between you—your patterns, your triggers, your hopes, and the ways you try to protect yourselves and each other.

In therapy, we slow things down. We listen differently. We look at what’s underneath the conflict—often things like longing, fear, disappointment, or love that doesn’t know how to land.

Many couples begin to feel more understood, more emotionally connected, and more hopeful about how to move forward together.

What Therapy Can Feel Like

Therapy doesn’t have to feel clinical or intimidating. It can feel:

  • Thoughtful

  • Curious

  • Grounded

  • Human

Some sessions feel deep. Some feel lighter. Some feel confusing. All of it is part of the process.

You don’t need to know exactly what you want to work on. You just need a sense that something matters enough to explore.

A Gentle Reminder

You don’t have to be “bad enough” for therapy.
You don’t have to have the perfect explanation.
You don’t have to do this alone.

Taking a first step is already meaningful.

Wherever you are right now—as an individual or as a couple—therapy can be a place to slow down, make sense of what’s happening, and find a way forward that feels more grounded and true to you.

Sending an inquiry email or setting up a brief video consult doesn’t require commitment—it simply shows willingness and curiosity. And that matters.

— Lannie

Lannie Lee